Marriage can be lost in a sea of children, to-do lists and never-ending needs of others.   Children cannot be ignored (and make it nearly impossible, even if it will only be for a short time), I understand.   But, I would argue that your spouse should not be ignored either.   The decline of marriage is a slow methodical slide that we climb onto, we move slowly downward at first and then gain speed toward the exit.  This all begins so innocently, with actions that move us further away from our spouse, first physically and then emotionally.   This is not scientifically backed and would not hold up in a court of law. …

Do you remember how much you loved your spouse before you got married?!! You could hardly wait for your next date. You studied him; learned what he loves to do, tried to enjoy his hobbies, planned special meals, created thoughtful gifts, wanted to know his friends, called to check in, or texted just to say “Hi!”. You could order his favorite coffee without asking. You knew his favorite color. You listened to him share his future hopes and dreams. Ahh! He was your heart sparkle! Those should not become only lovely memories. Do those things now! I would like to challenge you to date again. Make it a priority like when you first met.…