I have a friend that is an amazing example to me of how to help others… she doesn’t ask permission! She just shows up!  She is present and ready with food or time, when I most need help.  You know those moments… when life is overwhelming and just getting enough oxygen feels hard.  My wonderful friend just does something!  She will drop by with a meal or a bag of groceries.  When my husband had a job that kept him on the road 150 days a year, she would stop by early in the morning with a latte for me and breakfast treats for the kids.  She didn’s ask me…